Great Ways to Build Relationships with Your Children

Children do not come with an owner’s manual. As such, parenting is one of the most important jobs in the world and consists entirely of on-the-job training. Since children learn everything they need to know about being adults from watching and mimicking parents, it is vital that parents do their best to make meaningful connections with their children and to help them develop into healthy, happy adults. Unfortunately, many parents make the mistake of losing touch with their children, which results in a stressful, strained relationship. My friend who is learning to become a special education teacher, advises to have the best relationship with your child when they are young. If you want to make your relationship with your children better than ever, try these simple ways to build relationships with your children that will result in strong, meaningful connections:

Show Interest

The best possible way to get your children interested in you is to show interest in them. Taking interest in your kid’s music, sports, friends, and activities is one of the best ways to develop conversation starters and to make lasting connections.

Be Available

Yes, you have a lot going on in your life and it can be all too easy to get so involved in your own business that you forget to take time for your children. Kids won’t come right out and tell you that they feel neglected. Instead, they will grow resentful toward you and may start acting in inappropriate ways to get your attention. Work and other responsibilities will be there forever. You only get so much time to be there for your child. Be sure to make your kids a priority and let them know that they are.

Have Meaningful Conversations

Instead of constantly questioning your kids, start conversations by discussing your thoughts and feelings and invite them to share their opinions. Discuss what is happening in your life before asking about theirs. Once you open up, they will be more likely to follow suit. If time is a problem, you will likely have better luck during dinner, at bedtime, or while in the car.

Really Listen

When your children talk to you, repeat back what they said in the way you interpret it. This will give them an opportunity to clarify and will let them know that you are truly paying attention. If you disagree with your children, let them know that it is okay to have different opinions as long as everyone is respectful to one another.

Be A Cheerleader

When you see your kids as beautiful, smart, successful, and talented, they will feel it and will become what you see. What a parent says can build the successes or failures of the child’s entire life. Choose your words to your child carefully, as they will likely come true. Knowing that, would you rather tell them that they can’t succeed or would you rather tell them you know they will be great?

Having a close connection and clear, positive communication with your children takes a great deal of time and effort. It won’t happen overnight and you will likely become frustrated at some point. By sticking with it, however, you can give your child the best possible start in life.

Lang J. is a writer that loves writing on everything.


  1. This is an awesome article especially with the start of summer vacation. Today is the first day of summer vacation from my child and I am noticing that my routine is a little different. It is not as easy to write and do my own thing. Thank you for a little kick in the rear that I need to rearrange my schedule a bit.


  2. Ginny Marie says:

    Such great tips! I really try to take the time to listen to my children. Some of the best conversations we’ve had are in the car as we are running errands!

  3. Great tips! I found you on SITS! Looking forward to following you via twitter! 🙂

  4. Popped in from SITS! I’ll print this out for when I have kids!

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